How does friendship happen on the Road

People who have not been nomads can easily assume that we cannot have deep friendships if we live on the road.

I always find it quite strange when I am confronted with this assumption because it is the depth of relationship that I miss most when we go OFF the road. When we are not in our truck we are putting aside the constant rub and lack of privacy and escapes and try to find contentment in the snail paced substitute of weekly rendevous or living with others in an environment that has doors and locks and coffee shops.

Think about it. If you live in a world of doors and locks you can choose when to see people. You can choose to see each other when you are at your best. When you are “lookin good”.  When you are feeling sad or angry or too vulnerable you can just go behind your door and lock it, giving some exaggeration or lie about why.  Not so with us.


Friendships build quickly with those that travel in the same vehicle as us.

Friendship happens when you literally weave around each other to prepare a sandwich for lunch while you are shoulder to shoulder with someone who is cooking porridge, another person is high in their sleeping loft watching for an opportunity to descend and begin their search for a toilet. Someone else is getting changed at the other end of the truck and you give them the gift of privacy by averting your eyes. You just can’t get away from each other!  Build friendship or be miserable.

Friendship happens when books are read out loud and heard throughout the truck with ease while others sew or draw.

Friendship happens when you want to watch a movie and you find your place at one end of the truck wedged between two bodies while another smaller body flops on top.

Friendship happens when someone falls off a hammock and on top of you.

Friendship happens when you hear that a dear friend has died and you have no place to cry alone.

Friendship happens when your “issues come up” and you loose control…..then you apologize.

The closer the rub with the least amount of escape and the greater the need for each other the deeper the friendship has the opportunity to grow. We need to choose transparency and vulnerability when we are stationary. It is no longer a choice when you travel together. It is mandatory.

Friendship also happen with other vehicles traveling together or those that you meet again and again and again along the way to spend shorter, concentrated time together.

Friendship happens when we cry and laugh together. It happens when we dress up like complete idiots and run down the street together to share in and celebrate life.

dress up

Friendships become deep quickly as the time together with “tribe” is seen as a gift instead of taken for granted. We have amazing people we call friend all around the world. These friends are so amazing and high quality that a am frequently feeling “cool by association” with them.  Each time we meet up we just carry on from where we have left off, continuing to be even more aware of the limited time causes a jump in the spirit and a quickening of the heart. It is a joy in something you know you cannot control.  Part of this limited time we jump in quick and deep.  The friendship is seen as a special gift as you probe deeply into each others hearts. In this modern day of email and text a relationship can be started or maintained. A thought or word of concern or need can be sent out when needed. We are connected over time and space. Our hearts are intertwined.

I guess it seems obvious to us but not to others as they say, “Don’t you miss having friends?”

Are they serious?


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  • Shauna on March 18, 2014

    This is soooo insightful and true…thanks

  • Christine Arcus on October 8, 2013

    I’m so looking forward to the next Passion Fest. I hope to see you all there <3

  • Cathryn on October 7, 2013

    OMG- i’m so overdue for a NZ blog post of reflection………..
    slam dunk missy- might have to take your lead and spin off that a bit.
    miss you guys!